Saturday, July 28, 2007
Today, I'd like to talk about the grounds for divorce as a Christian. I recently read a Pastor friend's article about getting married and divorced for papers. (I'll discuss the getting married for papers part on a later post, for now let's concentrate on the subject at hand.) Here is what he wrote: "divorces due to abuse, addiction, irresponsibility and what have you other than fornication is sinful." I STRONGLY DISAGREE WITH HIM!! First of all, my Pastor friend that I'm going to call P.A. is a man of God, well educated about spiritual things, as I mentioned he's a pastor, therefore has a degree in theology and has been a minister for several years now. As for me, I'm just the average Joe (at least concerning spiritual matters but here's my take on this). Relationships in general, and marriage in particular are established on deals, explicit and implicit. Over the years, I've worked at different companies, small and large. In general, the company expects its employees to arrive on time at work, dress appropriately and use the company's tools to perform their duties, and these are explicit deals that if an employee does not respect, the company can fire him/her. However a company can also fire an employee who curses at someone else though it is not explicitly written in the contract. This is a normal undercurrent that does not need to be put down in words for one's to behave as such: "Thou shall not curse!". Same things apply to marriage, because the vows don't include the part that says: "We stay married as long as you don't abuse me" does not mean that if one partner becomes abusive, the other should swallow it in the name of "for better and for worse" or in the name of "the bible says..." Many people choose to remain in abuse situations for some unpalpable reasons; if you're living or lived a similar situation, please enlighten me as to why you chose to "save" an unsalvable relationship/marriage. Even the Lord Jesus himself did not take the abuse from anyone...just with his words, he stopped a crowd who was ready to stone him to death.
Posted by Tresor De Beaute at 11:49 AM
Friday, July 20, 2007
This week has been very exhausting (don't let the smile fool you). I've worked in average 11.5 hrs each day, trying to make some progress on a new project that got handed to me about two weeks ago. My mom who is on the other side of the Atlantic, works in average 30-35hrs/wk, and definitely has a better life than I. Don't take me wrong I love my job, and I particularly enjoy the fact that I can work those long hours without feeling the time passing. There is this invigorating feeling that warms me up at the thought of being productive. Work is not a burden especially when one is doing something that one enjoys. In fact it's a blessing from the One up above, a defining factor of one's personality for many. I remember a few years ago, one of my friends had some friends over at her place for a visit, we were hanging out together and we got unto talking about what we were doing for a living. Back then, we were a bunch of college students, struggling to pay for our tuition and fees while maintaining somewhat a 'normal' life. As each of us took turn whining about our miserable jobs, my friend while making up some story about her job, winked at me, indicating me I should not reveal her true "profession" to her friends. She was attending hotel rooms as a maid. For one reason or another, we all take pride or shame (for some) in what we do as a living. On how much money we're making. We define who we are by what we do, what we wear, how we speak, who we know. My husband often says that: "we are the sum of our experiences". Regardless of what defines us, somehow we all strive to make a difference in this indifferent world by different means.
Posted by Tresor De Beaute at 10:42 PM
Monday, July 16, 2007
At last, here I am, entering the world of blogging. I hope this will be an enriching and rewarding experience. This blog will be a repository of memoirs, experiences and exchanges on various subjects with my favorites being: religion, political issue, feminism, everyday life issues, successes and failures stories. Welcome aboard!!
Posted by Tresor De Beaute at 9:08 PM