Friday, June 6, 2008

The Illusion of Romantic Movies

I went to watch Sex and the City. I loved it!! (Of course as any straight woman!!). The only problem that I have w/ romantic movies is that, we (especially us women) can't help but dream we can live the same thing. More often we think that the movie has a better story line than our own life story. Then, we sometimes tend to and make the man in our life behave like the characters in the movies. When it turns sour, we lament that love only exists in fiction. I've got news, each one of us has his/her own love story, one as amazing and beautiful as the other. Some have a Cinderella ending and others don't. I remember this one from my friend Paul, he knew by age 20 who he wanted to marry, he courted the girl of his dreams and she fell in love with him and 5 or 6 years later, they got married. Unfortunately, Paul's job made him travel a lot and sometimes for long periods of time and his wife got resentful cause she found herself raising their kids alone (something she had never envisioned for herself). It got to the point where neither thought it was possible for them to stay together til one day Paul recalled the days he was courting his wife and what had enchanted him about her. His attitude changed, he became more supportive and never skipped one chance to remind her how important she was to him and their kids. They're still married, living happily. Some, if not most, have a disastrous ending. The 50% rate of divorce is the reflection. I believe good endings to stories more often than not are up to the protagonists in the relationship. It's all about appreciating what you have rather than what you think you could have, it's to stop dwelling on the imperfections of your relationship and celebrate its perfections.


Oliver said...

i definitely agree w/ you. The secret of a successfull relationship is the acceptance of each other's flaws and qualities.

Tresor De Beaute said...

Not only should you accept the other as s/he is, you should celebrate/praise them, tell them how much they mean to you, even during crisis (that's the hardest).

Prince Hamilton said...

Firstly women just have to be realistic. They think there is a Mr Right or passpartout. If there is one he can only be in heaven. The ones on earth are imperfect; they are not the ideal type that Sex and the City will show.
Like I have said before; every aubergine has maggots: some are maggotsful while others are maggotsless. Therefore, push the maggot on one side and eat the portion that is still healthy. That is called dying to self, patience and peserverance.

Seldrok said...

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Tresor De Beaute said...

Thank you Seldrok :)

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